Quiz: Am I Aroace?
Have you ever wondered why everyone around seems so obsessed with romance and sex? Why are they willing to go through so much effort, turmoil, and even humiliation for it? If all of this strikes you as strange rather than desirable, you might belong to a group of people called aroaces. Don’t brush it off too quickly – we invite you to take a quiz that could completely flip your understanding of yourself and your identity.
What is an Aroace?
An aroace is someone who identifies as both aromantic (not experiencing romantic attraction) and asexual (not experiencing sexual attraction) at the same time. This term first emerged in LGBTQ online communities around the 2010s as a way to combine the two separate identities.
It’s important to understand that being aroace is not the same as celibacy or a choice of singlehood. It’s an identity that describes an innate orientation and lack of romantic/sexual desires, rather than a conscious choice to abstain from relationships.
History and Origin of the Term
While the exact origin of the term “aroace” is hard to trace, it seems to have emerged from the asexual community in the 2010s on forums like AVEN. At first, the separate terms “aromantic” and “asexual” were used, but then people who fell into both categories started using “aroace” as a convenient shorthand.
Some researchers note that isolated mentions of people who could be considered aroace have existed throughout history. For example, some historians believe the medieval nun Hildegard of Bingen adhered to an aroace identity.
5 Signs You Might Be Aroace in the Quiz
The quiz outlines five key signs that may indicate an aroace identity, from lack of romantic and sexual attraction to not understanding romantic gestures. Let’s look at each of these in more detail:
Lack of Romantic Fantasies
One key sign is a complete or near-complete lack of romantic fantasies about other people. Aroaces don’t imagine romantic scenarios, daydream about dates, or experience feelings of romantic attraction.
No Sexual Attraction or Fantasies
Aroaces also don’t tend to have sexual fantasies, desire for sexual contact with others, or preoccupation with the subject of sex in general. This distinguishes them from people who may be asexual but still experience romantic feelings.
Comfort with Solitude and Independence
Many aroaces feel quite comfortable being alone and don’t experience a “lack” from not having a romantic partner. They value their independence and don’t see a need for romantic coupledom.
Not Understanding Romantic Culture
Aroaces often don’t understand romantic gestures and traditions like Valentine’s Day, dating, giving flowers, etc. It seems strange or unnecessary to them because they don’t experience those romantic feelings.
No Need for a Romantic Partner
While many people aspire to romantic relationships and marriage, aroaces don’t feel this is a need or important life goal. They can feel fulfilled through other close bonds like friendships or family ties.
Why Acknowledging the Aroace Identity Matters
Openly recognizing and embracing the aroace identity matters for several reasons:
- It gives people language to describe their lived experience and makes it more legitimate, rather than just an “aberration from the norm.”
- The aroace community helps combat stereotypes that a lack of romantic/sexual desires must be problematic or trauma-induced.
- Acknowledging aroace identity expands societal notions of what’s normal in the realm of romantic and sexual relationships.
- It allows aroaces to openly live according to their identity without pressure or rejection from society.
So the “Am I Aroace?” quiz and information serve not just self-understanding, but raise awareness in society about the diversity of human experiences with relationships.
Conclusion
Aroace is a relatively new term, but it represents a rich diversity of human experience that has existed throughout history. Understanding and embracing aroace identity is important for deepening our collective awareness of the spectrum of romantic and sexual orientations.
The “Am I Aroace?” quiz serves not just as a tool for self-reflection, but opens the door to contemplating what it means to be aroace in modern society. It reminds us that the norm is not the only way, and that the diversity of sexual and romantic identities deserves respect and understanding.
How to Play?
Click the "Start Quiz" button and answer each quiz question honestly. There are no right or wrong answers. You may encounter multiple-choice questions or statements to rate on a scale of agreement. Once you finish the quiz, you'll receive results that provide insight into your personality traits, including strengths and weaknesses. Use this information to increase self-awareness and make positive changes.
How many questions does this quiz have?
15 Questions
How long does it take to complete this quiz?
6 Minutes
Questions Overview
- I completely relate to them. I often share my own experiences too.
- I listen to them but don't share my own experiences, as I don't often have crushes.
- I feel confused sometimes, as I don't really understand the feeling of having a crush.
- I can't relate at all. I've never had a romantic crush on anyone.
- It's a natural and vital part of my life.
- I feel it occasionally, but it's not my main focus.
- I rarely, if ever, experience sexual attraction.
- I don't experience sexual attraction at all.
- I dream of being in a romantic relationship.
- I wouldn't mind being in a romantic relationship, but it's not a priority for me.
- The idea of being in a romantic relationship is not appealing to me.
- I've never desired or understood the appeal of romantic relationships.
- Unhappy. I desire a partner in my life.
- Neutral. If it happens, it happens.
- Somewhat relieved. It's not something I yearn for.
- Absolutely content. I can't see any value added by such relationships.
- I enjoy it and flirt back.
- It's okay, but I usually don't engage too much.
- It makes me uncomfortable, but I can handle it.
- I dislike it and often feel disconnected from the situation.
- Yes, frequently.
- Sometimes, but it's not very common.
- Rarely, if ever.
- Never, those thoughts just don't occur to me.
- I enjoy engaging in PDA and feel comfortable seeing it.
- It's fine, but I'm not overly enthusiastic about it.
- It makes me slightly uncomfortable, both to do and see.
- I feel really uncomfortable with PDA and don't understand why people do it.
- Yes, they are often my favorite parts.
- I don't mind them, but I don't get overly excited.
- They usually feel unnecessary or overdone to me.
- I often skip them or feel disconnected when they come up.
- A lifelong romantic relationship is what I aim for.
- Both sound appealing in different ways.
- A lifelong friendship sounds more appealing.
- I absolutely prefer the idea of a lifelong friendship.
- It doesn't sound appealing to me at all.
- It sounds okay, but I'd prefer a romantic or sexual element too.
- That sounds quite appealing and comfortable.
- That's the ideal type of relationship for me.
- I definitely want to get married someday.
- I might want to get married, but it's not a necessity.
- The idea of marriage doesn't appeal to me much.
- I have no interest in marriage.
- Frequently. It's a normal part of my day-to-day life.
- Occasionally, but not very often.
- Rarely, it's a rare event for me.
- Never, I just don't experience attraction that way.
- They are important parts of my life and identity.
- They're aspects of my life, but don't define me.
- They are not very significant in my life.
- I don't relate to these concepts at all.
- I completely relate. I've been there before.
- I sort of understand it, but I don't feel it as intensely.
- I struggle to understand it. It doesn't really resonate with me.
- I cannot relate at all. I've never felt that way about anyone.
- It's very important. I feel it's a major part of human experience.
- It's somewhat important, but not essential.
- It's not really important to me. I could take it or leave it.
- It's not important at all. I'm happy without such relationships.